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Ayfaar interpersonal and True Human relationship harmonization mechanisms

Principles provided naturally develop from Information regarding described IISSIIDIOLOGY Laws of the Universe as well as existence of humankind as an integral element, existing in symbiotic relationship with that Universe and being its multi-holographic expression Form. Any interaction with another "human being", - is in fact a mere collaboration with "yourself"; it is also an ability to identify internal conflicts between certain groups of Form-Creators within your own Self-Consciousness Configuration for their subsequent conscious transformation in order to harmonize their relations through choices, based on the motivational chains, contributing to the refocusing in a True Human development Direction.

1    1)     Another "human being" - is such an objective Reality, with which we interrelate in the Universe by means of a resonance Principle, depending on the activity of corresponding Karma Channels within our Self-Consciousness Configuration. Realizing the level, at which the resonance occurs, you can transmute "negative" interactivity Energy through active ААИИГЛИЛИА (AAIIGLILIA) IISSIIDI-Center, characterized by such mentally-sensuous manifestations as highly-emotional Warmth, Unconditional Love, Altruism, acceptance, sacrifice, dedication, mutual understanding and wise comprehension of all. That objective reflection, which we face in our own subjective Reality in the form of specific situation, someone’s reaction, or our own reaction to someone else’s manifestation or the surrounding events, can only be changed by the conscious choice. It implies the gradual voluntary change of our own Self-Consciousness Configuration, such as our inner state of mind, motivation and a purposeful solution.

2    2)     According to our Self-Consciousness Configuration diversity and holographic manifestation principle, there are multiple interpretations of the same exact interactivity, and only our own interest defines which of these variations we will choose, regardless of whether we do it consciously or unconsciously, according to our inner unregistered impulses.

3    3)     The only, and the most important thing we actually can influence, - is our inner state of mind, which, in fact, always solely determines the Configuration quality of our Self-Consciousness. State of mind selection occurs long before the interactivity with anyone and way before the unfolding of any situation. After all, our Perceptions regarding any “individual” and ourselves in different situations, being a prelude to any particular choice, determine certain states we experience, as well as our own manifestation as a certain "personality", existing in particular scenarios and corresponding "interpersonal" relations.

4    4)     We have everything, which is necessary to change our previously discordant Perceptions regarding the surrounding world and ourselves. That requires a series of sequential choices implementation, aimed at overcoming of the inertia and the self-deception. It is important to awaken our vigilance towards steadily established bad habits, manifested in the form of specific emotions and states, as well as to our behavior, appropriate for these habits. By sustaining the low-quality perceptions regarding other “people”, we only deceive ourselves, as this is a very simple way to change nothing while not applying any effort, motivating such behavior by the assumption, that everyone around us is also substandard.

5    5)     You should define every choice as an intention, leading to specific results, and approach the transformation of your Perceptions consciously, with interest, applying will power, - the possibility to overcome the resistance, which constantly comes from well-established selfish programs, protecting our ego and ambition, and contributing to our survival. Since the programs of resistance to something new, unfamiliar and uncomfortable, regarding our previous manifestations, are often triggered within our Self-Consciousness, it is suggested that we closely monitor these internal displays and find new motivations for the harmonious cooperation with other "people", as well as for the implementation of your altruism in a sense, that enables you to accept others as they are, understanding them. In such cases, the technique, called “leaving the comfort zone" helps tremendously; it’s a common skills and habits acquisition methodology, which is provided and elaborated by many sources.

6    6)     If you set up an objective to closely observe your own reactions to the behavior of others, it is possible to identify these reactions occurrence patterns, commencing the search for opportunities of changing some of these patterns in your perception of the surrounding reality. Everything, that has become unpleasant and no longer desirable for continuous reliving, is easily changeable. All possible perception internal transformation features are embedded in all existential scenarios; we should only utilize our wit and an observation power, perceiving every opportunity as just a potential predisposition to the fact of occurrence. All we have to do is to make a willful effort, aimed at the implementation of our intention to harmonize the relationship with a purpose of the real embodiment of our highest values, principles and beliefs. These principles have formed through our embedded moral, cultural concepts, social school programs, and other inspiring sources of information. The most effective source of inner transformation is the kind of knowledge that we have adopted as spiritual growth guide, clarifying for us the kind of opportunities we possess in order to exhibit higher-quality Self-Image as well as forming a harmonious Life in union with the rest of the world.

7    7)     Any interpersonal interaction, subordinate to the two fundamental lluuvvumicheskiy (True Human) Principles – highly-sensuous Intellect, coupled with highly-Intellectual Altruism, - will have the most harmonious effect, even if during this process a lot of inconsistencies and lack of mutual understanding will emerge. Intellectually-Altruistic Honesty, warmhearted Initiative, equal Responsibility and high-frequency Openness promote the gradual transformation of defensive psychic reactions, occurring due to the Perception difference.

8    8)     Using the positive motivational sequences that involve our own outdated Beliefs in regard to ourselves and the surrounding reality transformation and transmutation mechanisms, (which rapidly become obsolete because the refocusing – is a dynamics Synthesis and Self-Consciousness transformation process), we create a positive mindset, allowing of more substantial comprehension of all, greater unity and harmonization of any conflicts, generated by a superficial attitude towards the surrounding events, obsession with conventional stereotype perceptions and protective reactions, aimed at defending our wounded ambition and per se egocentric “personality”.

9    9)     Each situation in life has its own intuitively chosen positive motivational sequences, based upon the naturally manifesting within a given Self-Consciousness  configuration, combination of the two True Human Principles - highly-sensuous Intellect (intuitive understanding of the cause-and-effect relationships and structural elements of the inner and outer worlds interdependence), coupled with highly-Intellectual Altruism  (voluntary self-giving, wise compassion and joyful satisfaction when others remain in the positive state of mind. Here are some examples of such qualitative motivations:

a)     “Such behavioral manifestations are necessary for the given “individual” so that he or she is able to experience such seemingly “negative” emotions on their spiritual path. I respect such behavior. It certainly deserves the right to exist, even though currently I don’t quite understand it. Perhaps it is me, who lacks relevant Information”;

b)     “I probably need to clarify what exactly did this "person" mean, when he or she  said something, which invoked a rejection inside me, or what is hidden behind his or her "embarrassing” behavior, which I define as unacceptable. I should try to understand his or her approach before passing any judgment and my assessment of his or her behavior before edifying or opposing to it. Any of my assessments could trigger their backlash, so instead I should try being more tolerant and accepting. It might even be necessary to be prepared to ask probing questions in order to clarify the issue, subsequently providing sufficient number of corroborating arguments and elaborating examples; however, I also should be prepared to face an unexpected response, criticism, disapproval, indignation, and even an insult (which may seem underserved)”;

  

c)      “For me, it is vital to be tolerant, understanding and responsive to the feelings of another “human being”, it is important being able to positively justify and to treat any reaction with respect and acceptance as an alternative point of view, that has the right to exist, belonging to particular Synthesis sub-scheme, implemented in that particular fashion, being unclear to me, but not necessarily containing the negative sense I have imputed to it”;

d)     “I am thankful to this situation and this particular “individual” for the opportunity of recognizing my own existing Perceptions (according to the resonation Principle of the Universe) of his or her certain manifestations, which I have caused and later faced with, being that I don’t agree with them; although recently I myself could behave the same way, provided for which I have noticed it in the actions of the other “person”, even though I no longer interested in such realization form. Currently I have a great opportunity to rethink my own attitude, expectations and assertions from a position of Altruism and Intellect, reliving this situation anew, but this time with different motivations and a wise approach, considering my newly reformed – more conscious and harmonious, Self-Consciousness Configuration”.  

Such incentives can be used if they are backed by real feelings and a sincere desire to harmonize relations, coupled with an understanding of how important it is for all.

1   10)  Both – we, and our opponent, change Configurations of our Self-Consciousness at every moment of the refocusing process; our opponent, during the course of our constructive thinking in regards to the situation at hand, becomes calm and balanced, even though he or she can still be angry or adamantly defending their case, if, indeed, we must go through such experience. More importantly, we can finally understand the positive and constructive sense a person may have unknowingly embedded in his or her words, and draw conclusions about our own selfish behavior, which so far leads us to such conflict situations. By changing of our own attitude regarding the surrounding events by means of positive motivation, we become willing to accept everything we deserve in the form of a given external reality, still discordant by its very nature. Thus, we become confident, that we have made ​​every possible effort to participate actively and responsibly in shaping the outlook of ongoing events. Joyful acceptance of such internal work, provided for the results of these efforts, replaces self-pity for a greater commitment, imparting self-confidence and a sense of an inner freedom.

1   11)  During any type of communication, you can select and concentrate on the states of unity and harmonious cohesion with others. With proper effort and positive insight, you can clearly see the qualitative features and worthiness of another person; establish a harmonious relationship, quality Information interchange and positive unifying interaction with them.

If you are unable to reach such a state - it is a good occasion to reflect on how relevant your perceptions regarding this person are, whether they are of the highest possible quality, and why they provoke all sorts of psychological manipulation and even hidden or open conflict. The importance of change, (transformation and transmutation) of obsolete and outdated Perceptions regarding others and ourselves, is of a primary significance, because it determines our ability of mutually qualitative and harmonious interaction levels.

1    12)  All our negative interaction projections, lasting for more than two minutes, remain the obstacles that are being displaced into an unconscious perception mode and cause a lot of intense unpleasant situations, conflicts and frustrations, all the way up to enmity and hatred of other people, creating a constant sense of dissatisfaction during communication with them. With sufficient attention to own states of Self-Consciousness and of other people’s, it is possible to identify their reaction patterns to our behavior, which in turn can help to pinpoint our own wrongness and destructive distortion of the World’s harmonic perception. IISSIIDIOLOGY offers radical situation change once you determine your own wrongdoing by finding any suitable justification to your "opponent" within two minutes (the optimum period for quality refocusings), and offering a positive conciliatory talk, self-deflation and sincere remorse, based on Honesty, Openness, Accountability and spiritual Initiative, with regard to the two fundamental True Human Principles – highly-intellectual Altruism and highly sensuous Intellect.

PS: These principles apply primarily to individual self-cognition process. By teaching these principles to others, we can achieve a harmonious relationship only if we comply with the key principle of being a live example to them.